I am a 46-year-old mother of 3, married for almost 20 years. I live in Birmingham, in the UK, and work as a Mental Health Nurse. Nursing is a career I’ve loved for the past 27 years and I’ve felt fortunate to have a career that was both fulfilling and interesting.
In 2015 things began to change. My Mom was diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia. This turned my life upside down in ways that I can’t explain and don’t altogether understand. I developed Depression and found I couldn’t cope with life as it was. I struggled at work and at home and began to crave a simpler, less stressful life. I was unable to function as I had before. I found myself disorganised, exhausted, low and generally struggling to ‘keep-up.’
I turned to self-help and podcasts, looking for answers. It was through podcasts that I first heard The Minimalists and I was inspired! Their Netflix film was motivational. However, they couldn’t have led a more different life to me. I didn’t see how, with a family, I could achieve what they had. I knew I wanted to reduce my ‘stuff’ and stop spending money on things I didn’t need. I craved having less to clean and tidy up, but also to live a life where I had time for what was important, family, rest and fun.
I started the blog around this time, but unfortunately couldn’t commit to it due to life events. I still yearned for simplicity, time, space and freedom though and continued to explore this.
My Mom’s health deteriorated quickly; it was heart breaking. On the 22nd May 2018, she sadly passed away. I think it’s fair to say that my life kicked into autopilot. I went back to work shortly after the funeral and tried to carry on as normal, whatever that was. I sustained it for so long, but in reality I wasn’t coping. Blocking it out, pretending it hadn’t happened left me exhausted and burnt out.
I’m now hopefully on the road to recovery, but it’s still very hard. I’ve started counselling and also journaling, which are both helpful. I decided I wanted to restart my blog and that I still really wanted a simpler life. In some ways I feel I need it now more than ever. So here I am….starting out again on this journey. It’s not going to be easy or quick, but I wanted to document it regardless. My mental health has to be a part of this blog, because it impacts so much on what I am able to achieve.
I’ve been helped by other bloggers such as Courtney Carver and The Minimal Mom. I know I can do it. So join me on this journey, feel free to offer support, encouragement and advice, to tell me your story.
I will try to post my gratitude journal daily, or as close to daily as possible. I’ll then aim to do 2 blog posts per week, on a Wednesday and a Sunday. This journey is not just about decluttering for me…..it’s to try and make my entire life simpler….not an easy task!
Look back at some of my archive posts. They are a bit random…..but that fits with how my life has been.
Thankyou for reading